BYU-Idaho - Department of Home and Family FAML 200 - Preparation for Marriage
Outcomes
After completing this course, you should be able to …- Describe and teach the doctrine, principles, and practices associated with effective marriage preparation as set forth in the scriptures, words of living prophets, and scholarly sources.
- Describe the present context of marriage preparation, including current trends, research, and common philosophies related to marriage preparation.
- Use a gospel lens to critically assess trends, philosophies, and research pertaining to marriage preparation.
- Critically assess my own strengths and weaknesses pertaining to marriage readiness, including the impact of my family of origin and other previous life experiences.
- Employ healthy practices pertaining to preparation for and transitioning into an eternal marriage, including healthy practices associated with dating, courting, engagement, and the transition following marriage.
A vital principle to learning is to "act for [yourself] and accept responsibility for learning and teaching" (BYU-Idaho Learning Model). To become engaged learners, you must prepare yourself by studying the assigned material, writing in note-journals, asking questions, sharing insights, and thoughtfully complete the assignments. Moreover, you have a responsibility to contribute to our learning community by "loving, serving, and teaching one another.” Keep this in mind as you review the course assignments and requirements. In other words, it’s pretty difficult (if not impossible) to be lazy and learn.
Learning Model
What It Means To Be An “Agent” (Rather than an object) Learner:
Learning Model Principles- Exercise faith in the Lord Jesus Christ as a principle of power;
- Understand that true teaching is done by and with the Holy Ghost;
- Lay hold upon the word of God - as found in the holy scriptures and in the words of the prophets - in all disciplines;
- Act for yourself and accept responsibility for learning and teaching;
- Love, serve, and teach one another.
- Prepare carefully and thoroughly for each assignment;
- Seek opportunities to teach one another, both in and out of the course;
- Take time to ponder and prove teachings presented in the text and class discussions.
Learning Activities
My Marriage Prep Plan, Progress, and Final (25%) - We will be discussing a number of issues relative to preparing oneself for marriage physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Students will develop areas in which they need to grow in preparing for their own marriage, including specific skill deficits and concrete plans for overcoming those deficits. This will include an assessment of your experience in your family of origin and other previous experiences (e.g., prior romantic relationships). You will need to demonstrate that you are making progress toward some of those objectives before the end of the course. This assignment will be completed in “waves” beginning with identifying opportunities for growth and culminating with demonstrating progress and refining plans for future growth.
Discussions (28%) Discussion Boards usually begin with a reading assignment or a task that you must complete first. You are then asked to teach one another as you share your experiences and findings with a group of students or the entire class. For each discussion board you are required to post and respond to at least 2 other students.
Assignments (21%): You will be asked to reflect upon your experiences in four written assignments that you submit to your instructor.
RAM Paper (25%) - We will learn about a theoretical model that can help us in preparing for marriage and mate selection. It is called the Relationship Attachment Model. You will write a paper describing each aspect of the RAM, identify supporting gospel sources for each aspect of the RAM, and how you plan to apply (or, if you are married, teach someone else to apply) the principles of the RAM.
Quizzes (1%) - There are two short quizzes.
Required Materials
- Van Epp, J. (2007). How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk. New York, NY: McGraw Hill This book is available as a paperbook (ISBN 0071548424) or an e-book (ISBN 0071642498).
- Other course readings as provided on I-learn
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Late Work Policy
Late work will not be accepted. You are expected to complete your assignments on time. Contact your instructor with any questions or concerns.
Grading Policies
What Is This Grade Really Going To Mean In 10 Years? (Be Sure To Learn Something Too!)
| A = 94% - 100% | B- = 80% - 83% | D+ = 67% - 69% |
| A- = 90% - 93% | C+ = 77% - 79% | D = 64% - 66% |
| B+ = 87% - 89% | C = 74% - 76% | D- = 60% - 63% |
| B = 84% - 86% | C- = 70% - 73% | F = 59% and below |
What Does Your Grade Mean?
In assigning final grades for this course, the instructor will use the BYUIdaho Standard Grade definition criteria listed below.
“A” represents outstanding understanding, application, and integration of subject material and extensive evidence of original thinking, skillful use of concepts, and ability to analyze and solve complex problems. Demonstrates diligent application of Learning Model principles, including initiative in serving other students.
“B” represents considerable/significant understanding, application, and incorporation of the material that would prepare a student to be successful in next level courses, graduate school, or employment. The student participates in the Learning Model as applied in the course.
“C” represents sufficient understanding of subject matter. The student demonstrates minimal initiative to be prepared for class. Sequenced courses could be attempted, but mastering new materials might prove challenging. The student participates only marginally in the Learning Model.
“D” represents poor performance and initiative to learn, understand, and apply course materials. Retaking a course or remediation may be necessary to prepare for additional instruction in this subject matter.
Disclaimers
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The instructor reserves the right to change any part of this syllabus at any time during the semester in order to adapt to changing course needs. You will be notified prior to any changes that may take place.